Finding Freud, Fighting Freud?

I have tried this whole semester to be as open as possible to everything we have been studying--to try to examine my first thought to root out what assumptions I am making based on previous conditioning and education which may have been less critical and analytical--but psychoanalysis is one stumbling block I am having. Although I can understand some of the validity in the theory and how it makes sense to view the unconscious as a language (which is specifically articulated by Lacan, not necessarily by Freud humself), I am having trouble accepting the method of the interpretations of dreams--especially the somewhat arbitrary focus on minute details which become extremely important which is explained away by the identification of the process of condensation in dreams. I think it may be possible for one to accurately interpret dreams this way, but there is absolutely no way of knowing.

I can see that perhaps that is the key to being able to accept this type of practice--remembering that we are talking about discerning the content/nature of the unconscious which Lacan, especially, asserts is unknowable. I suppose that this comes back to one of the roots of good theory, which is theory that remembers it is theory, not fact, not authority, and certainly not practice.

Here I think is one of my problems with entertaining psychoanalytic theory--it is related directly to the practical application of therapy. This I think is why I find myself uncomfortable looking for the Oedipus complex and penis envy (even in the most abstract sense) in literature--because I am constantly preoccupied by the notion of these ideas being practiced within the realm of actual therapy. I realize that I am allowing my own emotional reaction to such strongly misogynist language and concepts to cloud my analytic thinking on this matter, and I think with time I will be able to integrate some of these ideas into my critical thinking (or recognize those which are already there for what they are), but for now, they make me very uncomfortable.